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Thursday, September 2, 2010

What An Unpleasant Surprise Welcome....

Alyasa Vincent in his room, before left

It’s been nearly a week my son Vincent was in Jogjakarta, the place where he recently lived for college…
Yeah… perhaps this is the feeling of how to live separate from who our loved one… The feeling of sadness and feeling of loss still has not gone from my heart ... Each time, especially when I pray ... my eyes are always watering ... which I myself couldn't hold it ...

I feel constantly worried about my son ... the prior incident when he had just arrived in Jogjakarta after the flight from Palembang on last August 25 ...
That morning I drove him to the airport ... He left with a lot of luggage, a large suitcase containing clothes and a large box containing other supplies including his painting equipment, kept in the trunk of a plane while carrying a bag containing a laptop and documents, as well as a small box containing a special food from Palembang named ‘Pempek' (which will given to my hubby’s business friend who will take care of my son there, and also pick  him up  in the airport) which he brought into the cabin ...
Because quite a lot of baggage / excess, my son-even charged extra for luggage as much as 130 thousand rupiahs ...

his luggage...

Actually this is not the first time my son fly to Jogjakarta... Since last july, he had been 3 times to get there...First time when he register to entrance exams to ISI, the university of fine art...that time he went accompanied with his dad..., the second times he fly alone to take the entrance exam for 3 days...that time he stay in hotel at around nearly the campus of ISI... the 3th times he fly again there after hearing the announcement that he passed the exam on ISI.. he's there to do registration and tuition payment...for only about one day....
then now he get there for the 4th times...

But how, unfortunately, when he arrived in Jogjakarta for the 4th times… and that bad event happened to him… that both luggage of my son which stored in the trunk was lost some where ... My son was confused, he called me and I told him to reported it first to the officers there…
Me and my hubby  did not stay silent, we call the officer and asked why the luggage of my son could be lost .... Finally they told my son that his luggage probably left in Jakarta when the plane in transit, before the next flight to Jogjakarta ... You know, the flight from Palembang to Jogjakarta … must be in transit first in Jakarta before toward to Jogjakarta…

Posed with his dad before left...

The airport officer said, the luggage of my son will probably arrive around 3 or 4 hours later with the next flight.... then he said my son had to go back to the airport around 3 or 4 hours later to pick them up ... WHAT…??? with full of fury my hubby call up the airport officer... and said that they’re who should deliver my son’s luggage to his place... it's all their fault ... not the fault of our son ...
My hubby pointed out, they have to solve the problem as soon as possible ...... because of their negligence then our son have to suffer…
Finally they agreed to deliver our son’s luggage to his boarding place ..
Alhamdulillah finally at about 8.00 pm they came to Vincent’s boarding place to deliver his luggage ...

At the airport ( Sultan Mahmud Badaruddin II International Airport - Palembang )

Probably  that is the first ‘surprise’ for my son (an unpleasant surprise welcome, of course!)) in his first time to start living outside,  and he must handle it by himself... next time perhaps there will be 'other unpleasant surprises else' which will come appear around his life there ...
Even though my heart was feeling very very badly, I always thinking that everything like that ('the unpleasant surprise') maybe will help him to become more mature and independent ...
However I will continue to pray for him so hopely he can endure the better life there day by day....

May Allah  always be providing grace and blessing to my son, Vincent....Amen!


  1. Oh Nensa, I"m so sorry that your son had such an unpleasant experience! I can't believe how unprofessional those airport police officers were. I know that you miss him terribly, but hopefully over time, you'll begin to feel better:-). Hugs to you.

  2. I had a hard enough time sending my baby to kindergarten! I would have an aching heart too. Sorry he had such a rough experience.

  3. I am sorry to read of your experience and torment. I wish you peace in your life and in your heart.

    Very best wishes, Boonie

  4. That was a beautiful post dear Nessa, one can feel your anguish and genuine concern about your son. I am not a mom, but I can imagine how hard it must be knowing that you cradled the little babies in your arms and protected them and suddenly they are out here in the big bad world on their own and you can not really help them anymore...
    But I hope you can find consolation in the wit and intelligence of your son to get him through.
    As for lost luggage, don't you just hate that.
    Have a great day,

  5. Alls well that ends well. I love the way you rationalise things, Nensa. Whilst losing luggage is a hardship, you recognise that it is a stepping stone to dealing with problems and entering maturity. Don't worry about your son too much, you're love will see him through. God bless.

  6. I've always told my sons that college is a great stepping stone into adult life. You're on your own but you still have your parents to fall back on. Thank goodness he has you and your husband to help him get through this.

  7. I'm sorry he had to go though that, Nensa, but like you say, at least it was an experience! I hate to travel when I check bags, I always try to just carry on whatever I need, it is much easier that way...but I know in your son's case he had to take a lot of stuff! I hope you are having a great week.

  8. blue datang menyertakan doa tuk keselamatam serta klesehatan tuk your son.hehehe
    salam hangat dari blue

  9. I wish you all the best. I hope this finds you doing well. I've had a rough week. I got laid off on Tuesday. Now I have to find a new job in such a bad economy. Wish me luck. Thanks. Take care. Enjoy the upcoming weekend.

  10. I'm so sorry that happened. Hopefully things will get better for him!

  11. Hope all will now go well for is so hard for daughter leaves soon too. xoxo

  12. Thank you Nensa for sharing your beautiful story about your son. You are right some not so good things happen without us expecting it. You are also right that prayers will take care of us. Prayers will take care of your son my friend.

    I am happy your son has independent mind despite his young age. He choose to be on his own in preparation to for adult life. Congrats for being a wonderful mom! :)

  13. Hello, Nensa!! Be sure I am, here from Brasil, praying for you and your lovely family so that your heart may find better days!!! I have a small baby and can not figure the day she leaves home!!!

    Be fine, sweet friend!! Bela.

  14. Hoping everything will be fine for all of you, sweet Nensa. Wouldn't we just want to be right next to our sweetpeas all day long?
    Have a wonderful weekend. xxooxx

  15. @Stacey:
    Thank you Stacey… I'm also very angry at the airline's ... imagine ... my son had to wait until night to just for change his clothes ... coz all the clothes and accessories all in his luggage...

    Yeah Lourie, now I often feel headache thinking about my son…
    Thanks for your sweet words!

    @Boonie. S:
    Boonie, thank you so much for all your support and wishes… All the best to you too!

    Thanks for the compliment, Zuzana...
    It's truly hard to hear something bad happened to our loved one, but we're not beside him to help at that time...
    but that's life... I just hope that unpleasant experience would be a great lesson for him...
    Have a great day too to you, my dear friend,

    Thanks, Val... I've just tried to thinking positif and teached our son that something bad would be the best experience and also would be a valuable lessons in our life...
    Blessing to you too, my sweet friend!

    @Mama has Spoken:
    You definitely right, my friend.... that college was a great stepping stone into adult life.... I just hope and try to be a best parent of our son...
    Thank you so much friend , your words have been brighten my day...

    @Joe Cap:
    Thanks so much, Joe! I just hope that unpleasant experience he got at the airport would make him a more mature in the future...
    I hope you have a great week too, my friend!

    Makasih banyak Blue, sudah mampir and komentar…
    Salam hangat juga buat kamu, friend!

    Hi Keith, thanks so much for your kindly wishes… I’m so sorry for you… hope you will find a new job soon… keep up your spirit, friend!
    Hope you could enjoy your day!

    Thanks so much, Jemi! Yeah … now all things have got better to our son…

    Thank you Koralee… yeah Alhamdulillah… now all well with him… I hope everything will get well too when your daughter begin to leave you for college…
    sending my hugs to you, friend!

    @Jolly Princess:
    Thanks so much JP...
    There're so many bad/unpleasant things happened in our life without our expectation... however, all that perhaps would make us be more wisely or better people in the future... I hope it would be happened to my baby son...
    Thanks again JP for all your delightful words...

    @Claudia Murakami:
    Dear Bela,
    Thanks so much for your sweetest words... Nowadays I just can only pray to make me feel better and also to hope our son will undergo his life with more better and better...
    Hope you'll be fine too, my sweet friend! take care...

    Thanks so much my sweet friend, Saskia…
    Surely… we always hope everything’s run well with our sweet baby…
    Hope you have a wonderful week too, saskia!

  16. I know how you feel.You are such a caring and loving mother.
    Alhamdulillah you didn't lose the luggage.
    Hope Vincent will succeed in his studies.
    Soon he will be back for Eid Ul Fitr right?
    Hope it will be a happy reunion with your beloved son.

  17. Dear Nensa, oh, how i'm feeling with you! Even when our kids are big and growm up, we wish to protect them. It happenend o my son Robin, who was 18 then, that he got robbed in Amsterdam and lost his really expensive camera with all equipment, given to him by hus unncle. It was horrible - for all of us. But then, i think, it's the point of having a family to go together through times like this. And your so is so happy to have you! Lots of Love, M.

  18. Hi Nensa,
    So sorry to read that your son had a difficult time with his luggage, but I'm glad that it was found and returned to him. You are right that these kinds of expericences will help your son grow toward maturity. It's good to pray for him daily, he knows that you love him. I pray for my children everyday.

    Have a wonderful week Nensa...bless you! :)

  19. Oh oh sweet sweet Nensa . Just today I read all you wrote about your son leaving home to study !
    And his first big big adventure .
    How lucky he is with such loving and caring parents.You were there for him even when you were far far apart .
    Distance does not excist when you love one-another.
    You are a wonderful mother and I am glad to know you . Wishing you all the best

  20. I'm so glad he recovered his luggage. And love that the officers realize it was their fault in losing it.

    My heart would be aching too. I had a hard time sending my son to kindergarten. I cried so much and now all I can do is drop him off and pray for hime very day.

    *HUG* I hope it gets easier.

  21. that must have been an awful experience for you, your hubby and your son but i'm glad that the luggages were delivered to him later that day.

    even if other problems exist in your son's life, i'm sure you will always be there for him whatever the distance. :)

    ~ash's mum

  22. Just popping in to wish a lovely Wednesday, Nensa. Hope your week is off to a great start! xxooxx

  23. Oh No Nensa!!! I can see why you would be frustrated! that would be so hard to have him so far away to fend for himself when us Mamas know we really just want to be there to help them out when things get tough! But you are keeping a good atittude- hoping it will making him stronger! Hope all is well now!!! Take Care!

  24. As you pointed out life is full of unexpected surprises and this is one of them, I am sorry your son had to get one so soon but am glad it all worked out.

    He will do just fine and as a Mother you will always worry about him but as parents that is what we do.

  25. I hope the road goes easier for your son as he is away from home, and growing up. Even though our children grow up to be adults it is hard to see them go through difficulties.
    Blessings to you,
    Gloria @}~`}~~~

  26. Glad that your son has reunited with his luggage. Such worrisome experience may happen again but you are right there. It will be like a training for him into his full maturity and independence. I can see you are one dedicated mother and same with your hubby. May God (or Allah to you) bless you and your family!